The one and Only Steven Hall
Steven Hall (a finalist on the show) said 'Things like this don't happen to people like me' and there he was...
A 50 something year old telecommunications engineer in his brown suit with his tie tucked firmly into his trousers, was up on stage dancing his heart out to millions of people including myself. .. So actually Steven, things like this do happen to people like you, because you made it happen…
How many of us plan to do something but put it off constantly. Let me tell you, procrastination seems to be my middle name these days. If you ever need an excuse to why you can't do something ask me, I'll have an answer for you. 'Oh no I can't do this, because I don't have that' 'I won't be able to go today because I'm tired, so I'll go tomorrow' (yeah right, tomorrow I'll have another reason why not) ‘I can't look into this because Glee is on'…
But these excuses (and they are all excuses, not reasons) have not been valid when it comes to the men in my life. Where boyfriends are concerned, I will trek to Timbuktu and back just to make them happy. Good or bad? … I don’t think it’s all bad, in fact at the time it seems like a perfectly normal thing to be doing. I mean when you care about someone them being happy makes you even happier. So that’s good right?
However, as much as I think getting lost in the moment can be very romantic and enchanting, I've learnt that it’s imperative not to lose yourself. This really is a key factor. Even though it may not seem like it at the time, we have to appreciate that not all relationships last forever. And surviving the aftermath of a breakup is hard enough at it is without having to realise that you are left with nothing because you gave them everything.
Don’t get me wrong, be in the relationship and be in it fully. But try not to make excuses which you turn into reasons to why you can’t do something for yourself. It is much easier to help someone else achieve their dreams. Why? Probably because it isn’t our own, so if they fail we feel minimum hurt and if they achieve it we can reap the benefits also (to a certain extent)
For years I've been unsure why I keep holding myself back….. And the reality is that it’s because I’m scared. I’m scared to fail but even more interesting is the reality that I’m scared to succeed...
Our greatest fear it is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? - Marianne Williamson