Ahhh now there's that word 'challenge'. How many times have you said or heard your friends say 'he/she's a challenge'... Er na, they’re not. Their either a dick and or a bitch (yes there are dick bitches amongst us) and because we don't want to see or believe it, we put the 'challenge' label on them.
(Anyone reading this who has someone in their life who they consider a 'challenge' please remove that label and replace with the following: Women, rip off that challenge label and replace with 'DICK', place it right in the middle of his forehead so very time you look him in the eye you'll see it. Men, gently place on said female the 'BITCH' label.)
The plan was to meet for after works drinks… Not food... Drinks… We were to meet opposite
Not only was I dressed casually (sandals, jeans, vest top, basic make up) I also purposefully arrived 20minutes late. I saw him as soon as I arrived but pretended to look around for a bit. As soon as he spotted me he came over. I turn around and there was Richard, with his slightly chiselled jaw, big brown eyes and ruffled hair. He was definitely more striking in the flesh, like a lot more... He leads the way while asking me how my day’s been etc. I wasn't even paying attention; he was so charming and sexy and funny and sexy and tall and sexy. He stops, takes my hands, turns me towards him and says 'You look absolutely gorgeous' (MARRY ME NOW PLEASE!!) I was now on cloud nine...
Next thing I know we're at Chez Gerard! Erm what?! 'I thought we were going for drinks? This is a restaurant!' He smiles and takes my hand again (surely this means he loves me right!?) and says 'Yes it is. But it also has a bar, plus I'm a bit hungry aren't you?' I start nodding, I was hungry alright, but what I wanted wouldn't be on that menu... He leads the way ‘After you’ (OK LOVER!)
Once inside, Richard tells me to order drinks from the bar (I had no idea there was a bar in here!) and he heads over to see if there is space for us to eat.
‘Can I get a Strawberry Daiquiri and Gin & Tonic please?’ Why is the barman not moving? He finally says 'It’s a lot cooler in here today. The air con got fixed' Then he winks and starts making the drinks. I stood there for a moment wondering what on earth he... OH! Was this his way of saying he recognised me from the day before?
We get seated and I stare at the menu, again, and contemplate having the same thing. Plus I didn't want to spend time choosing food; I wanted to look into the eyes of my new husband, who kept looking at his phone. No problemo hubby, I can wait while you sort out important business. I'll just start thinking about the colour theme for our wedding...
'Sorry, my girlfriend keeps calling and texting me' (Ok... WHAT?!!! Maybe he meant female friend..?) 'She always thinks I'm up to no good' (How ironic!)
'My girlfriend. I’m going to turn my phone off so I can focus 100% on you now' (WHAT.The.Hell?!)
'I'm sorry, you have a girlfriend?'
'Yeah, I can't just dump her. That wouldn't make sense would it.' (WHAT?!!! YES... yes it really would!)
So, Richard has a girlfriend who he wants to break up with. But he didn't want to break up with her and be single, he wanted to "see what was out there first" to be on the safe side. (But what about our wedding?!!) By the end of his explanation, I had already had my first drink, plus a double vodka and coke and was currently gulping down the wine he had ordered to cope with it all.
'I hope this doesn't change things between us' (Well she's not coming to our wedding that's for sure!)
'What things? We don't have "things between us", we just met! And you have a girlfriend!!'
He was so nonchalant about the whole thing, shrugging it off and telling me he was going to break up with her once he found someone else. I sat there staring at him, right at his forehead where I had now placed the DICK label... I've never walked out on a date before and so was contemplating what to do next.... But I already knew I had to leave. I didn't want to potentially be with someone who had such a flippant attitude towards cheating. He wanted to walk me to the tube but I told him he should stay... I needed space...
By the time I was outside I could feel the alcohol taking effect, I was so angry and disappointed and tipsy! Why would someone do that? Why would someone with a girlfriend join a dating site? Why not just man up instead of trying to take the easy way out?
But this was the life of a singleton, going into the battle ground they call dating. We have to be ready for everything, whether it be meeting the most amazing men to meeting complete wankers. I didn't want to dwell on it as there was no point. I had to brush it off, plus I was meeting Jason tomorrow...
Now Jason was erm... He was... How should I put this.... Gay... But I didn't know he was gay at first and obviously nor did he!!